Try talking it out with your friend, especially if they knew you liked the person. If you had spent a lot of time chatting with your BFF about your crush, it can feel extra confusing if something starts brewing between them. According to Hasha, any type of communication is better than none at all. I'm happy that you two seem to have found happiness together, but please understand it may take some time for me to feel comfortable with it.
Hasha says that the two keys to maintaining your friendship are communication and boundaries. While one fight or betrayal isn't necessarily grounds for a friend breakup, it is important to make sure you're surrounding yourself with healthy relationships. If your so-called bestie routinely makes you feel bad or does things that hurt you, it might be time to end the relationship.
This will only put pressure on yourself. Wait for a reaction. Don't immediately put pressure on your crush and say, "So what do you think? Take a few deep breaths, step back, and wait for your crush to respond.
Your crush may immediately say that they return your feelings, but it's more likely that your crush may need more time and will say, "Cool, thanks for telling me," or "Can I have some time to think about it?
If you want to increase the chances of your crush liking you, you should play it cool after you put your cards on the table. Method 3. Tell your crush how you feel over the phone. Though telling your crush in person will make you look more confident and mature, and saying it over the phone is sort of the worst way to do it, if you're really shy about telling your crush how you feel, then calling them and revealing your feelings is the next best bet.
Just say hello, make them comfortable with a joke or casual comment, say, "I wanted to tell you something," and then reveal your feelings. Talking over the phone will make you feel less nervous because you won't see your crush face to face.
Still, if you're nervous, you can pace back and forth to get rid of some of that nervous energy. If you're determined to tell your crush how you feel over the phone, you can also practice by calling one of your friends and rehearsing what you'd say first. Tell your crush how you feel with a cute note. Putting a cute note in your crush's locker, textbook, or backpack that tells them that you like them can be a nice way to tell them how you really feel. Just write something like, " Hi, Mark, I just wanted to tell you that I like you.
Be careful with notes - they can be lost or passed around, and you don't want the wrong person to get the note! Ask them on a casual date. If you're too nervous about saying, "I like you," you can sidestep the situation by just asking your crush to hang out. You can simply say you have extra tickets to a movie or a show and invite your crush along, ask your crush if they're hungry or want to grab a snack or coffee somewhere, or ask if they want to go for a walk in the park. Asking them to hang out solo will make your feelings pretty obvious, so you can let your crush do more of the work when they figure it out.
Know what not to do. There are a few things you should avoid doing if you want to tell your crush that you like them and get the best results. Here are some things you should avoid if you want to look confident and mature: Don't have your friends tell them how you feel. If you want to look mature, you have to do it yourself. Don't do it over social media. This will make you look like you're not serious or confident enough to have the conversation in person. Don't be too eager when you tell your crush how you feel.
A simple "I like you" is far more effective and far less likely to scare them off than saying, "I've been in love with you since the second grade Joshua Pompey Relationship Expert. Joshua Pompey. You want to definitely be on the playful side as far as communication goes. Keep things right and friendly. Use the body language, some playful touches here and there, try to break away from being in the friend zone, and in subtle ways just communicate that there is potential on more of a romantic and physical level.
Not Helpful 5 Helpful Do you want to date your crush? If you like your crush but aren't interested in dating them, or can't for whatever reason, they may be hurt or confused by getting mixed signals, so you probably shouldn't tell them.
On the other hand, if you're interested in dating them, telling them can help you both figure out what you'd like your relationship to be. Not Helpful 85 Helpful My crush told me he was "done with girls" after a bad breakup a little bit ago. I want to tell him I like him, but I don't know if he still feels that way and I don't want to ruin our friendship. What do I do? If your crush is still recovering from the breakup, especially if the relationship was serious, telling him your feelings can make things awkward or make it seem like you were waiting for him and his girlfriend to break up.
How recent was the breakup? Does he still seem angry or bitter about relationships, talk about his ex frequently, get annoyed or upset when he's around her or someone brings her up in conversation, or say he's not interested in dating when the subject is brought up? Depending on your ages and the intensity and longevity of the relationship, your crush may take awhile to get over the relationship and be willing to date again.
Until you're certain that he's over his ex, you shouldn't tell him about your feelings - wait until he's over the breakup. Not Helpful 74 Helpful My crush is someone who a lots of girls like. I know that some of my friends like him, but they don't know that I like him. Should I confess? You need to talk to your friends about your feelings before you consider confessing to your crush, especially if you think he likes you back.
If you ask him out without your friends knowing that you like him, it will likely lead to a lot of drama in your friendship circle e. If you talk to your friends about this crush, you can figure out what your friends are planning on doing about their crushes on the boy and whether someone in the friend group is already "allowed" to ask him out.
In general, it's typically considered "friend code" to not ask out a friend's crush or sibling without talking to them about it first. Not Helpful 50 Helpful My crush said she has a boyfriend, but I don't think she does. Should I still tell her how I feel? Telling her your feelings isn't a good idea right now.
Chances are good there's one of two things going on - either she really does have a boyfriend and you just haven't seen him meaning she would not appreciate you making advances on her , or she told you she "has a boyfriend" because something you're doing is making her uncomfortable and she doesn't know how to tell you that she's not interested in you in which case, you need to give yourself some distance from her.
It's absolutely okay to have a crush, but if someone tells you they already have a partner, they're telling you they're not interested in dating you. Being pushy about your feelings or trying to determine whether or not she actually has a boyfriend isn't respectful of her boundaries and is extremely likely to make her feel uncomfortable or even threatened , and will absolutely not make her like you. Not Helpful 51 Helpful This can come across like you're trying to break them up, can make your crush feel awkward or put in a bad position, and runs the risk of the girlfriend getting mad at you or thinking you're trying to steal her boyfriend from her.
Let their relationship run its course, or distance yourself from him if that's too hard for you to do. Not Helpful 88 Helpful That's not a good idea. Their friend might tell the friend before you get a chance to, or even worse, the friend might tease you, tell as many people as possible, or even lie to you about whether your crush likes you back!
Tell your crush yourself; it's hard, but it can be far less embarrassing than your crush finding out through somebody else. Not Helpful 38 Helpful I recently went through a breakup and I don't want to seem thirsty for love, but I honestly do really want to be with someone. Should I tell my close friend I like him? Do you actually like your friend, or are you just lonely? If you just want to ask him out because you want to date someone, stop and really think about why. Relationships don't determine your worth, and just dating someone for the sake of dating is inconsiderate of not only his feelings, but yours as well.
It sounds like you might be struggling with the breakup, loneliness, or with low self-esteem, so seek out a trusted person to talk to like a family member or an non-involved friend and spend time doing things you enjoy that don't involve dating. Don't impulsively rush into another relationship - give yourself time to recover and to figure out what you want.
Not Helpful 37 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. By using this service, some information may be shared with YouTube. If you're nervous, try not to look too serious or smile too much. Helpful 45 Not Helpful 2. Have a plan. Giving it a name deprives it of its titanic importance.
It gives you perspective and distance and allows you to shuffle it along without dwelling so much on it that it becomes distracting. Just as you eventually stop noticing a smell or the way your chair feels underneath your body, the feelings of that crush will simply just… not be as immediately noticeable until you devote more conscious attention to it.
You just let it burn itself out in its own time and at its own pace. That may be a couple weeks. That may be a couple months. But it will fade. My situation is pretty specific. Not just in the dating sense, but socially, too. I rarely hang out with my female classmates out of my own initiative.
I would love to work on that, but there are a few obstacles, from what I can see. The other obstacle is that I live in a country whose official language is not my native tongue which is English.
This makes group conversations in that language especially hard to follow and it usually results in me zoning out, standing at the edge of the group. First of all, SGP: it kind of sounds like you may have a slight audio processing issue.
If you need a moment to process something or it helps for them to repeat it so you can understand, then by all means, ask. There may be vocal coaches you can work with in your area who can help you, or you might find exercises on YouTube that can help you get used to speaking clearly. And if nothing else, slowing down and making an effort to speak deliberately can help you be understood. We very rarely meet people who actually value our input and opinions.
This means that in practice, talking about ourselves tends to bring more pleasure than food or money. Being the person who gives someone their full attention and wants to know what they have to say? That is an incredibly attractive trait in someone. More often than not, it makes you look thoughtful.
Your friends and peers are far more likely to give you the same consideration that you give them.
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